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Hello Loves,

Men. I’ve loved them. I tolerated them and I’ve hated them. They have made me laugh, they have made me cry. Some have created an intense longing in me, some I longed to get away from. They have broken my heart and they have repaired my heart. They have served their purpose and I am not of need of them any longer. I love myself enough now. 

Don't get me wrong, if the right love came my way I would be open to it. I just don't have any overwhelming desire to go searching for it. There is no feeling of desperation or overwhelming loneliness. I believe this comes with being single and really getting to know yourself. So many people are afraid of being alone that they never allow themselves a chance to get used to it. Being alone is actually a gift, it's a chance to allow yourself the opportunity to find out you are complete on your own. I related to the quote below and I'm sure there are those of you who will relate as well:

A serial monogamist, I found that at every turn I was constrained by issues of, well, maleness. There was a kind of inherent dominance that tipped the balance of power away from me. -KAREN RINALDI

Do you relate at all to Karen Rinaldi's quote? Have you ever felt that you lose yourself within the confines of a relationship? Read the quote below, I couldn't have said it better myself. If you are newly single why not take some time to focus on yourself? If the right person comes along, welcome it, but know you don't have to be in a relationship to survive. Life is just as beautiful and sweet for the single girl as it is for any couple.

"There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise". -Emery Allen