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Dating Advice For Dummies

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You know those big yellow books that line the shelves of Barnes and Noble? Blogging for Dummies, Wine for Dummies, Sewing for Dummies, Sushi for Dummies, and even Ham Radio for Dummies? We've all seen them. I think I might write 'Dating for Dummies.' It would contain only one page and one word: DON'T.

It's a double don't if you live in a small town. Anyone over the age of 40 who is unmarried or divorced (which seems to be a common theme these days), has already dated the remaining single people within a 15 mile radius who are single. We are the walking wounded, dragging our shattered hearts and baggage around like a shackle on our ankle.

In a small community everyone has something to say about new relationships too. It's doomed to fail. It's even more doomed to fail when you date someone who can't pick up the phone but instead chooses text as a 'go to' form of communication. What? Huh? Did we revert to middle school? I've seen the movie: He's Just Not That Into You. I know the ending too. Run far, run fast, head for the hills.

My girlfriend has a part time job. It's dating. She is on the dating websites and it seems she keeps meeting men with the same name...well, lucky for her, she won't mix up anyone's names. Although this works for her, it sounds exhausting to me. A series of mini-like-interviews disguised as a first date. No thanks. Someday I'm going to write a book about her dating adventures because there are some doozies in there!

My problem with dating? I'm not the dating type. I'm a relationship kinda gal. Your'e in or your out. I love you to pieces or I'm over it. I don't know how to do the in-between thing. I think I have decided to embrace spinsterhood and if that doesn't work out my male best friend and I are getting married in 8 years. 

Divorced? Widowed? Over 40? Have you tried dating? I've gotta hear your thoughts on this one!

Have a lovely weekend Everyone, and for those of you who dare to date good luck! Let us know how it turns out.