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Have You Experienced Sexual Discrimination?

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"She remembered who she was and the game changed." - Lalah Deliah


I want to know if in this day and age if you are still experiencing sexual discrimination? I recently read someone's college essay and I was shocked that in today's world of equal rights that this young woman still was feeling some gender bias.

My field is male populated and you bet your cute patootie that sexism is alive and thriving. I have experienced everything from people pretending to want to do business, only to find out they had different intentions, to degrading comments.  I'm certain that there are males out there that are experiencing it as well. 

It makes me furious. How is it we take 20 steps forward but 30 steps back? Have you experienced sexual bias? If so, how old are you? Have you had friends, daughters, sisters it has happened to? 

 

Siri: Get Me Directions To Paris

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Yesterday I had an appointment for a sales call. No parking. No sign outside sign for establishment. I park illegally because there were NO other options and ask someone where in the hell is this place? Stranger knows and politely tells me. I arrive right on time. The person I'm selling to is pretentious and makes me wait 45 mins. I worry the entire time about my car getting towed. For the sake of this story let's call Pretentious Man, (Mr. P.). Anywho, Mr. P. finally comes along and apologizes but every time I started speaking he was called away or simply would get up and walk away with no explanation. I wanted to kill him, but Mr. P. had the upper hand and I have a job to keep in order to keep a roof over my head. What should have been a 10 min. appointment took an hour. I ran back to my car looking for a parking sticker but thank the Good Lord my car was in the clear.

I got in my car to head into rush hour traffic and Siri said, "Where do you want to go?" 

Me to Siri: "Paris."

Siri: "Getting diretions to Paris, France."

Of course Siri couldn't come up with the directions because it involves planes and flying over the ocean, but it made me feel better. I spent the rest of the ride home listening to an Elin Hilderbrand book on audio and decided not to let it bother me. 

Is your job stressful? How do you deal with the stress? Do you have any tips for other readers on how to chill out after a long trying day? 

 

Favorite Fall Destination: Nantucket Island

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I have dreamt of living on Nantucket for years now. I love it that much. I don't even think being 20 miles out to sea would bother me all that much. I dream of a roaring fireplace with a dog curled up at my feet, being a local and knowing everyone by name, knowing every cobblestone by heart and soaking in the beauty, every second of every day.

My favorite season to visit is Autumn, specifically October. Sure, the beaches are gorgeous in the summer, but the town and island is avalanched with tourists crowding the streets and restaurants. In October, there are enough shops, delicious dining options with fancy cocktail concotions just waiting to be sampled. 

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The last time I visited I was doing a travel review of,  The Harborview. It was in October and The Harborview was so spacious and cozy I never wanted to leave. I also have reviews of, The Nantucket Hotel, and, The White Elephant, in my navigation bar, at the top of my page, under travel if you are planning a visit any time of year. 

When the crowds thin, and the leaves fall onto the cobblestoned streets from the magnificent trees along the sidewalk, I think to myself: Now this is what Heaven must look like.

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Where is your favorite place to escape to? Is there someplace where you can envision yourself living? Where is it?

 

 

Volume 1: Holiday Inspiration {Christmas}

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Call me crazy, but the stores have had Christmas décor out for a few weeks now and I've seen people buying it. I know we haven't even had Halloween yet, but for those of you who plan ahead and love Christmas the way I do, I thought I'd begin to share some inspiration once a week until December.

Trust me, I am controlling myself until the day after Thanksgiving. I received my love of Christmas from my Mémé who always had her house decked out and Christmas music playing the minute the Thanksgiving turkey was wrapped up and put away. My daughter is the same way...come November, we play Christmas music. I may or may not let a Christmas song play when it comes on in rotation on one of my playlists in July...you can guess the answer to that one. 

Anyways, I'm not trying to shove it down your throat, but simply give you some inspiration in case you love decking your home out as much as I do. 

Until Christmas, enjoy Halloween and Thanksgiving! xo

I'm Blushing...Surprise Flowers

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Last night I arrived home from a long day at about 9:30 after meeting a friend for dinner. I found flowers in my breezeway and my 1st thought was: 'Who would buy me flowers?'  I unlocked the back door and scanned my brain for whom would have sent them. Blank.

I unload my arms onto my kitchen counter and pull out the note that is attached to flowers. 

It reads: 'We have built a reputation on fresh flowers and good service. Thank you for being a customer.'

Ding ding...lightbulb goes off to flip note all around. I realize the Procesco at dinner has gone to my head a wee bit. I find the correct note. It's from my employer congratulating me on my 1 year anniversary and thanking me for my hard work. 

It's always nice to be appreciated. This job has been the hardest I have ever had, but it has taught me more than any job I have had, both professionally and because it has been a challenge it has taught me a lot about myself personally. 

What was the hardest job that you have ever had and what lessons did you learn from it?

 

The Horrible Guilt That You Carry When Your Break Someone's Heart

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One night I was driving home from God knows where and this Adele song came on my Bluetooth in my car. I had heard it dozens of times but on this particular evening I really listened to the lyrics. It spoke every word I was never able to verbalize regarding a former love. Take your eyes off of me so I can leave. I'm far too ashamed to do it with you watching me. 

Realizing that you don't love someone the way they deserved to be loved and knowing that they still love you is the most awful guilt-ridden feeling you can have. I can't stay this time because I don't love you anymore. Don't try to change my mind I'm being cruel to be kind. It's the cruel to be kind part that makes it so hard, nobody wants to feel cruel, and nobody wants to make someone they care about feel pain.

The worse part is when you really want to love them way they should be loved, but you just can't because there is something missing, a part of you is broken or incapable, the timing is wrong....You have given me something that I can't live without. You mustn't underestimate that when you are in doubt, but I don't want to carry on like everything is fine. 

You see the pain in their face each time you see them and it kills you. You want to be their guiding light, not a place of darkness for them. Please don't fall apart. I can't face your breaking heart. I'm trying to be brave. It means the world to me that you are in my life but I want to live and not just survive. Everything changed me and I don't think you can save me. 

It's not your fault if your feelings change, if you need time to yourself or if the timing just is just not right. We all have to be true to ourselves and quite often that is the hardest thing to do.

Have you found yourself in this situation before?  If so, please share your experience as you just might help another person with your response.


 

 

{3} Quick & Adorable DIY's

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I have realized I am happiest when I am doing something creative. Once I came to that realization, I vowed to find ways to be creative every day. There is actually scientific proof that any for of creating improves happiness and encourages an individual's soul to flourish. Here are a few quick and adorable DIY's that I stumbled across. I found an inexpensive gilded tray in TJ Maxx that I'm going to transform with chalkboard paint. These are just so pretty and provide endless uses.

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Having a bonfire? A fall wedding? A dinner party? A child's birthday sleepover? Whip up some S'more favors for your sweet guests.

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A can of metallic gold, add some mini pumpkins and voila...instant place settings. Very cute for a fall wedding, Thanksgiving dinner or a dinner party. Hope you find a way to add some creativity to your life each and every day! xo

 

Amazing Product Dupes: The Look For Less

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More expensive doesn't necessarily mean better. Here are 3 quick dupes that are tried and true!


ONE: This is my all time favorite dupe ever! If you love the look of glowy cheekbones and brow bones that you get with The Nars Multiple, in Copacabana, which goes for about $40 then try, Wet n Wild Highlighter, in, When The Nude Strikes. It only costs around $4 and the formula glides on creamier. The fact that it's rounded makes application easier as well, and it has amazing lasting power. Apply under brows, down center of nose, on tops of cheekbones, center of chin, in the bow of lips and dab a bit over lipstick or gloss in the center of the bottom lip for an all over amazing glow, (blend with finger). 

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TWO: Honestly, I didn't see what all the fuss was about Too Faced Cosmetics, Better Than Sex Mascara, that retails for around $28. I thought, 'this is just okay'. Soap & Glory's, Thick & Fast Mascara, only costs around $10 at Target and 2 quick coats are like instant falsies. Va va voom. 

 

 

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THREE: I swear this is not a photo of the same shoe. The J Crew flat is on the left and is around $80 at their Factory Store. The Target flat on the right is $22.99. As far as wear and tear, I'm sure the J Crew flat would beat the Target brand, but if you aren't doing a lot of walking I think the Target dupe is a steal.

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