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{Interior Design} Shutter Island

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No, I'm not referring to Shutter Island, the Leo Dicaprio thriller, but to this Nantucket Island home that has gorgeous shutters as opposed to the expected french doors for privacy between rooms. This stunning home is the mastermind from the Architectural firm, Ike Kligerman Barkley.  Let's all pretend we can feel the ocean breeze, smell the island Hydrangeas and sit back and enjoy!




Please Do YOU

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Most of us are dynamic without realizing it. In a world filled with social media where everyone Tom, Dick and Harry is promoting only the best in his or her life, there is scientic proof that too much social media is not good for a person. Waif-like Instagram models in bikinis don't help to contribute to a healthy body image. Globe-trotters that can afford to travel the world and stay in luxurious places shout: "Your life is not good enough." This has been statistically proven. Social media, although fun to look at dreamy places, has to be kept in check. Even the people with the most seemingly perfect existences have challenges and obstacles in life to overcome. 

Companies like Darling, Aerie and Dove are doing their best to promote healthy body images for girls and women. They started to use average-size, untouched models in their campaigns. Their message is simply: You are enough. You are good enough the way you are. Embrace the body you have. Embrace your life. Be the best version of you instead of being a version of someone you are not. 

My motto is come as you are, except who you are, love who you are. You are dynamic, one of a kind, fascinating, interesting, funny, intelligent, perfectly imperfect...everyone has beauty in them. Let your light shine.


These Things I Know For Certain

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These things I know for certain:

There will always be tests in life. There will be bad times but eventually they pass and there will be beatiful, glorious moments.

No other than me, will determine my self-worth or ability to succeed.

I will fall. I will get right back up again. I will fall. I will get right back up again. 

Money does not buy happiness. On your deathbed would you rather be laying there surrounded by paper bills or loved ones holding your hand?

One or 2 close friends is better than a boatload of acquaintances. When times get tough, acquaintances will not be there for you. True friends will be there through thick and thin.

Settling in a romantic relationship is unacceptable. 

Health and family are everything.

Home is not so much a place, but a feeling and sense of security.

Peace is an inside job and requires self-introspection and work to achieve and maintain.

There is nothing more beautiful than a smile.

There is no better sound then the laughter of children.

Water seeks it's own level. The universe returns to us whatever energy we are putting out. 

The ability to forgive another is not for their benefit but for ours. 

Dog is God spelled backwards because they both love unconditionally.

No one is better than anyone else. Pretentious people are insecure. It doesn't matter if you are a janitor or a hedgefund manager...everyone deserves the same respect. 

If you are unhappy with your current situation take the steps necessary to change it, but don't get discouraged when it doesn't happen overnight. Keep faith.

Sometimes a road trip with open windows and good music is all that is needed to clear one's head.








How Stella Got her Optimism Back

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This past Valentine's Day I spent the majority of the day at the emergency room. I have a genetic blood clotting disorder and was experiencing some similar symptoms so I wanted to rule out a clot, (thank God it was not a clot)! Sitting there waiting for my results brought me back to the time I actually did have a very serious clot and the Doctors discovered I had this familial condition. I was going through a very stressful divorce at that time and I remember feeling very alone. I've had a few fleeting relationships since that time, but my focus has been on getting my children through college and on not getting my heart broken again.

As I pondered all that has happened I realized that the girl with the rose-colored-glasses had turned into a just-surviving-day-to- day kinda gal. What?! How did I let that happen? I stopped dreaming, stopped hoping and the long, cold New England Winter and Vitamin D deficiency certainly made a contribution. I knew I had to make a change. All work, no adventure can deaden a person's soul. I decided that I would spend every spare penny that I make on L-I-V-I-N-G.  The next day I  booked an overpriced trip to celebrate my daughter's upcoming college graduation. Optimism, when it is not free-flowing, becomes a choice we have to make and sometimes it requires work to maintain. 

I'm going to visit a friend this weekend, a kindred spirit. An honest, spiritual sorta friend who helps me untangle when I become uncentered.  Are you naturally optimistic or do you have to work at it?