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These Things I Know For Certain

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These things I know for certain:

There will always be tests in life. There will be bad times but eventually they pass and there will be beatiful, glorious moments.

No other than me, will determine my self-worth or ability to succeed.

I will fall. I will get right back up again. I will fall. I will get right back up again. 

Money does not buy happiness. On your deathbed would you rather be laying there surrounded by paper bills or loved ones holding your hand?

One or 2 close friends is better than a boatload of acquaintances. When times get tough, acquaintances will not be there for you. True friends will be there through thick and thin.

Settling in a romantic relationship is unacceptable. 

Health and family are everything.

Home is not so much a place, but a feeling and sense of security.

Peace is an inside job and requires self-introspection and work to achieve and maintain.

There is nothing more beautiful than a smile.

There is no better sound then the laughter of children.

Water seeks it's own level. The universe returns to us whatever energy we are putting out. 

The ability to forgive another is not for their benefit but for ours. 

Dog is God spelled backwards because they both love unconditionally.

No one is better than anyone else. Pretentious people are insecure. It doesn't matter if you are a janitor or a hedgefund manager...everyone deserves the same respect. 

If you are unhappy with your current situation take the steps necessary to change it, but don't get discouraged when it doesn't happen overnight. Keep faith.

Sometimes a road trip with open windows and good music is all that is needed to clear one's head.








How Stella Got her Optimism Back

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This past Valentine's Day I spent the majority of the day at the emergency room. I have a genetic blood clotting disorder and was experiencing some similar symptoms so I wanted to rule out a clot, (thank God it was not a clot)! Sitting there waiting for my results brought me back to the time I actually did have a very serious clot and the Doctors discovered I had this familial condition. I was going through a very stressful divorce at that time and I remember feeling very alone. I've had a few fleeting relationships since that time, but my focus has been on getting my children through college and on not getting my heart broken again.

As I pondered all that has happened I realized that the girl with the rose-colored-glasses had turned into a just-surviving-day-to- day kinda gal. What?! How did I let that happen? I stopped dreaming, stopped hoping and the long, cold New England Winter and Vitamin D deficiency certainly made a contribution. I knew I had to make a change. All work, no adventure can deaden a person's soul. I decided that I would spend every spare penny that I make on L-I-V-I-N-G.  The next day I  booked an overpriced trip to celebrate my daughter's upcoming college graduation. Optimism, when it is not free-flowing, becomes a choice we have to make and sometimes it requires work to maintain. 

I'm going to visit a friend this weekend, a kindred spirit. An honest, spiritual sorta friend who helps me untangle when I become uncentered.  Are you naturally optimistic or do you have to work at it?